What is love? Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more….do you remember that tune? How you went nuts when that came on?…or was it just me? Quality! Anyway got thinking today (surprise surprise) about a comment I left on another blogger’s post. What is love?…I’m not gonna get too deep so you can stop rolling your eyes now! :D. Ok so we know there are different types of love (I think Wikipedia does a better job than me :P). Hands up who thinks love is a choice? I’m referring to Éros love.
I believe that we choose to love. I might be wrong on this one but hear me out. I believe that when we meet someone we fall in ‘like‘, meaning infatuation. This is concerned more with physical attraction as opposed to an emotional connection. I believe that over time, we grow to love. I also believe that ‘love’ is a work in progress. Something which we must constantly work at in order to to keep the ‘flame lit’ or the ‘engine running’. I believe that if we get complacent in love our ‘car’ stands a very good chance of breaking down. I believe that we need to take our ‘love’ in for regular inspection or M.O.T. in order to make sure that our car (love) is ‘healthy’ and running smoothly. Nothing’s perfect and every now again we might get a puncture, worn brake shoes, leaky radiators, whatever. These things can be fixed. If we choose to ignore them then our car is gonna stall. What things do we do to make sure our love doesn’t ‘break down’? Do we just say things?…taking the car for a valet so it looks good on the outside, or do we act on what we say?…changing the oil, making sure there’s enough coolant, changing the spark plugs.
What do you do to make sure that your love is running smoothly? Are you the only one driving the car relying on your sat nav, or do you have someone next to you being your navigator? Are you going to the same place, or are you going to let the other person out before you get to your destination? Are you speeding, or are you driving within the speed limit?
I believe love requires effort, teamwork, communication, patience, intimacy, understanding…the list goes on. This leads me to the next question…can you fall out of love? If you believe you don’t choose, but fall into it, can you fall out of it? And if you do fall out, can you fall back in again? I’m quite interested in hearing your views on this.
I really need to get out more! I think too much. One love. 🙂